They both took birth in same society with similar surrounding, opportunities and challenges. A Story of him & her born as equals, but shaped as, please find out…
him: He is the son of the proud parents, someone who will take the family name ahead.
her: She is the lovely daughter of her parents too.
him: He got parental attention, love & care and is sent to good school for good education & good life ahead.
her: She is the one parents are generally worried about. They sent her to a nearby decent school with a view to prepare her for being able to get good match and get settled.
him: He spent his time playing various outdoor games but was not allowed to do or get into any chores. He got most of the things done and had to never get his hands into anything.
her: She is born responsible (made to believe that she is ‘sayani’ – Punjabi word for responsible) and developed tolerance for almost everything before she is fully developed herself. She too spend time playing indoor games (outdoor games will make her skin complexion dark and unsuitable for marriage) but only after she is done with helping her mother with basics, doing her chores herself and helping her father and little brother.
him: He passed from school having his doting father fully determined to get him into nothing less than Medical, Engineering or something which gets him into highly paid job.
her: She too passed out from school having her father worried but fully determined to get her into anything that will make her a suitable prospect in the marriage market – teacher training course or any light course which will let her handle – both family & job comfortably.
him: By the time he graduated and acquired professional degree, he had started to understand the society better, had good circle of friends but could barely manage on personal front – fully dependent on his parents for anything & everything.
her: By the time she becomes graduate, she had degree from open university along with 1 or 2 menial certificates and diplomas in areas she was made to believe good for her.
him: Time flies, he got married had his family, works for good company earning good money but cannot survive on his own when it comes to personal and family chores. It was his time to support his family and parents with small tasks but his inability to complete any task pulled him down every time. He just could not handle his inability and wished his parents continue to do these tasks for him, as always.
her: Time flies, she got married too. She was completely at ease with her low paying job, handling her family and providing support to parents as well. But had various limiting factors – She didn’t know that she did not know so many things as she was shut from outside world for so many years. She spent her formative years as if she has never lived those years, she was actually preparing for coming time… Preparing ~ not living.
him: When time came to support parents not financially but being physically present for their small requirements and needs, he just could not manage it at all. He was never prepared to be independent as this word mean only earning good money to him. He was not prepared in his formative and early adolescent years for something called ‘Life’ all he could do is Eat, Sleep and works 9 to 5 and earn his living.
her: She could not understand what her otherwise supporting husband and now grown up kids expect from her. She could not understand that they want her to achieve more not for them but for herself as she deserves it. She is so contented being an average that she missed understanding that her ever supporting family is pushing her to know her worth and achieve what she had missed so far in life.
Note to Parents / Society / Teachers / Educational & Religious Institution: #Create and provide equal opportunity to every child-irrespective of gender, #Independence is not limited to finances, it is being independent in every respect, #Education beyond books-understanding of self along with self needs, #Let your child blossom don’t create limitation in their mind, #Do not limit your Parenting with a view to create your income substitute, #Being able to see child as child – without any title of him or her